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Brought to heel: school sends 56 pupils home for wearing wrong shoes

FEED - The Guardian - 53 min 4 sec ago
pHeadteacher of Djanogly City Academy in Nottingham defends teachers’ actions after pupils breach uniform policy, including wearing flip-flopsbr/ppMore than 50 pupils were sent home from a Nottingham school on the first day of term after turning up in inappropriate footwear – including flip-flops./ppThe headteacher of Djanogly City Academy defended teachers’ actions and said being properly dressed was an important life lesson for children./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/education/2015/sep/02/brought-to-heel-school-sends-56-pupils-home-for-wearing-wrong-shoes"Continue reading.../abr clear='all'/br/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/1/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/1/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/2/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/2/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/3/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/rc/3/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/a2.htm"img src="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/a2.img" border="0"//abr/a href="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/ach.htm"img src="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/ach.img" border="0"//aimg width="1" height="1" src="http://pi.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/a2t.img" border="0"/img width="1" height="1" src="http://pi2.feedsportal.com/r/238385147476/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/49839df0/sc/33/a2t2.img" border="0"/img width='1' height='1' src='http://feeds.theguardian.com/c/34708/f/663828/s/49839df0/sc/33/mf.gif' border='0'/
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Most Americans Have A Heart That's 'Older' Than They Are

FEED - The Huffington Post - 53 min 17 sec ago

NEW YORK (AP) -- Your heart might be older than you are. A new government report suggests age is just a number - and perhaps not a very telling one when it comes to your risk of heart attack or stroke.


The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report takes a new approach to try to spur more Americans to take steps to prevent cardiovascular disease. CDC scientists estimated the average "heart age" of men and women in every state, based on risk factors like high blood pressure, obesity, and whether they smoke or have diabetes. Then it compared the numbers to average actual ages.


The results?


Nearly three out of four U.S. adults have a heart that's older than the rest of their body, according to CDC calculations.


For U.S. men on average, the predicted heart age was nearly eight years greater than their real age. For U.S. women, it was about five-and-a-half years.


"This is alarming. Heart disease is the nation's number one killer," said the report's lead author, CDC scientists Quanhe Yang.


"But the bottom line is you can do some very simple things" to become younger at heart, he said.


Each year, one in four U.S. deaths is due to heart disease. Many are heart attacks and strokes. The average age of first heart attack is about 64 1/2 for men and 72 for women, according to the American Heart Association.


The nation's heart disease death rate has been falling thanks to advances in prevention and treatment, including drugs to control blood pressure and lower cholesterol.


But heart disease remains America's leading cause of death and health officials have been pushing to get more people to control their weight, quit smoking and take other steps to help their heart and blood vessels.


The CDC is leading a "Million Hearts" campaign, launched in 2012 to prevent 1 million heart attacks and strokes by 2017. CDC scientists were intrigued by a heart age calculation developed by other researchers conducting a large study in Framingham, Massachusetts.


Some research has indicated that Framingham heart age calculations have resonated more with patients than more conventional medical advice and warnings, so CDC researchers used the Framingham model - and CDC national survey data - to produce the first report on heart age across the nation.


CDC officials released the report Tuesday.


"It gives a stark, simple picture of your future risk of having - or dying from - heart attack or stroke," said CDC Director Dr. Tom Frieden.


The estimates were specific to adults 30 to 74 who have not had a heart attack or stroke.


Mississippi has the highest proportion of adults with advanced heart age, followed by West Virginia, Kentucky, Louisiana and Alabama. Those states also have higher rates of smoking, obesity, and other heart disease risk factors.


Utah and Colorado had the lowest proportions of people with a heart age five years or greater than their actual age, followed by California, Hawaii and Massachusetts .


The study also found that for blacks nationally, heart age was 11 years greater than actual age. The gap was much smaller for whites and Hispanics.


On Tuesday, CDC also officials shared the Framingham study's online heart age prediction calculator for individuals to assess themselves. People have to know their systolic blood pressure - the higher of the two measurements - to generate an estimate.


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CDC report: http://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns


Heart age calculator: http://www.framinghamheartstudy.org/risk-functions/cardiovascular-disease/general-cvd-risk-prediction-using-bmi.php


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Chelsea Clinton: Setback for child survival

FEED - CNN - Top Stories - 53 min 22 sec ago
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Misty Copeland Behind-the-Scenes Video Features Music From Wolf Bradley

FEED - The Huffington Post - 54 min 15 sec ago

Misty Copeland Sunrise Under the Brooklyn Bridge: Favorite Song

Misty Copeland is the inspiration and subject of a my new video collaboration with musician Wolf Bradley, with his band 20 Eyes.

I had captured stunning video footage of a sunrise photo shoot with Misty posing on a Mason & Hamlin grand piano that mysteriously washed ashore under the Brooklyn Bridge, but could never quite find the perfect music to accompany Misty's images -- until this week. Wolf Bradley, who grew up with Misty during her fledgling years as a ballerina, had written "Favorite Song" for her, and just finished the final mix.

Misty interpreted that encounter with so much power and grace that all I could think of for weeks afterwards was a flawless artist dancing effortlessly in this rare setting. I just couldn't find the music to reflect her beauty and make the video come alive.



Through his mother, Cindy Bradley (Misty's first ballet teacher), Wolf shared the song with me. When he laid it over the video it created the perfect flow of imagery and lyrics. Wolf's song really strikes a chord with my "Sunrise under the Brooklyn Bridge" video of Misty. The intimacy of his lyrics and his reference to 'notes' while she poses on the piano is phenomenal.

That intimacy of the lyrics comes from a treasured childhood friendship between Wolf and Misty. Wolf told me:

Misty was like my sister and we were inseparable. The earliest moments in life I can remember are of her; walking me to preschool, tucking me in at night, and, my favorite, dancing all over the house.

I was so young when she first moved in that, along with my parents and grandparents, she was the first form of love and affection I ever experienced. I was watching old films of the two of us putting on ballet performances in the living room and was struck with a very long-lasting feeling of home.

'Favorite Song' is about love in its truest form. When a person can stay in your head for years and years like your favorite song, that's a special thing.

Watch the video here. (My new inspirational book, Misty Copeland Power and Grace , includes an introduction by Cindy Bradley, and Wolf Bradley is currently on tour in California with 20 Eyes. More on Facebook.)

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Green party selects Siân Berry as London mayoral candidate

pBerry, a transport campaigner, stood for Greens in 2008 election for mayor and intends to focus her campaign on capital’s housing problems/ppThe Green candidate in next year’s election for London mayor will be a draggable="true" href="http://www.theguardian.com/politics/2008/mar/27/sianberry.greenpolitics"Siacirc;n Berry, who stood for the party in the same contest in 2008/a, coming fourth./ppBerry, 41, was chosen after a month-long internal selection process and a ballot of all London Green party members./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/politics/2015/sep/02/green-party-sian-berry-london-mayor-candidate"Continue reading.../a
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Green party selects Siân Berry as London mayoral candidate

FEED - The Guardian - 54 min 41 sec ago
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เบลเยียมจ๋อยเบนเตเกชวดบู๊บอสเนียฯ

เบลเยียม จ๋อย เบนเตเก เดี้ยง ชวดลงช่วยทีมบู๊ บอสเนียฯ ในเกมคัดยูโร 2016 วันพฤหัสบดีนี้
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12 มาตราที่อยากเห็นในรัฐธรรมนูญใหม่

!--break--!--break-- pbr /br /br /ขณะนี้ประเทศไทยกำลังอยู่ในระหว่างขั้นตอนการทำให้มีรัฐธรรมนูญnbsp; ผมในฐานะประชาชนคนหนึ่งจึงขอเสนอความเห็นโดยสุจริต (ไม่ได้ชื่นชมหรือต่อต้านร่างของทางราชการ) ต่อการมีรัฐธรรมนูญnbsp; ถ้าเป็นไปได้ ผมขออนุญาตเสนอให้มีมาตราต่อไปนี้ในรัฐธรรมนูญฉบับใหม่br /br /มาตรา 1nbsp; บุคคลผู้เป็นข้าราชการ พนักงาน หรือลูกจ้างของหน่วยราชการ หน่วยงานของรัฐ หรือรัฐวิสาหกิจ หรือของราชการส่วนท้องถิ่นและเจ้าหน้าที่อื่นของรัฐ มีหน้าที่รับใช้ประชาชน สำนึกในพระคุณของประชาชน ดำเนินการให้เป็นไปตามกฎหมายเพื่อรักษาประโยชน์ส่วนรวม อำนวยความสะดวก และให้บริการแก่ประชาชน/p pในการปฏิบัติหน้าที่และในการปฏิบัติการอื่นที่เกี่ยวข้องกับประชาชนบุคคลตามวรรคหนึ่งต้องวางตนเป็นกลางทางการเมือง และไม่มีผลประโยชน์แอบแฝงโดยห้ามจัดงานรื่นเริง ห้ามการอวยพรวันเกิด ยกเว้นการจัดงานเฉพาะในหมู่ญาติในวันหยุดราชการเป็นการส่วนตัวbr /br /มาตรา 2nbsp; ประชาชนชาวไทยมีหน้าที่ดังต่อไปนี้:br /(4) ต่อต้านการใช้กำลังล้มล้างการปกครองตามระบอบประชาธิปไตยจนกว่าชีวิตจะหาไม่br /br /มาตรา 3nbsp; การเวนคืนอสังหาริมทรัพย์จะกระทำมิได้ เว้นแต่โดยอาศัยอำนาจตามบทบัญญัติแห่งกฎหมายเฉพาะเพื่อการอันเป็นประโยชน์ต่อส่วนรวม และต้องชดใช้ค่าทดแทนที่เป็นธรรมภายในเวลาอันควรแก่เจ้าของตลอดจนผู้ทรงสิทธิบรรดาที่ได้รับความเสียหายในการเวนคืนนั้นnbsp; ทั้งนี้ตามที่กฎหมายบัญญัติ/p pการกำหนดค่าทดแทนตามวรรคหนึ่ง ต้องกำหนดให้อย่างเป็นธรรมบนพื้นฐานราคาตลาดโดยจ่ายให้สูงกว่าราคาตลาดร้อยละยี่สิบ รวมทั้งพิจารณาทดแทนค่าความเสียหายอื่นของผู้ถูกเวนคืนnbsp; แต่หากการเวนคืนทำให้ทรัพย์สินของผู้ถูกเวนคืนมีมูลค่าสูงขึ้นเกินกว่ามูลค่าที่ถูกเวนคืนและรวมความเสียหายอื่น ผู้ถูกเวนคืนไม่ต้องรับค่าทดแทนbr /br /มาตรา 4nbsp; สภาผู้แทนราษฎรประกอบด้วยสมาชิกจำนวนห้าร้อยคนโดยเป็นสมาชิกซึ่งมาจากการเลือกตั้งแบบบัญชีรายชื่อจำนวนหนึ่งร้อยคน และสมาชิกซึ่งมาจากการเลือกตั้งแบบแบ่งเขตเลือกตั้งจำนวนสี่ร้อยคนbr /br /มาตรา 5nbsp; วุฒิสภาประกอบด้วยสมาชิกซึ่งราษฎรเลือกตั้งจำนวนสองร้อยคนโดยให้ใช้เขตจังหวัดเป็นเขตเลือกตั้งbr /br /มาตรา 6nbsp; ให้ยกเลิกคุณสมบัติของผู้มีสิทธิสมัครรับเลือกตั้งเป็นสมาชิกสภาผู้แทนราษฎร และวุฒิสมาชิกที่ว่าให้สำเร็จการศึกษาไม่ต่ำกว่าปริญญาตรีหรือเทียบเท่า (เพราะจบการศึกษาระดับใดก็สามารถทำงานได้ ไม่ควรจำกัดสิทธิ)br /br /มาตรา 7nbsp; พระมหากษัตริย์ทรงแต่งตั้งนายกรัฐมนตรีคนหนึ่งจากสมาชิกสภาผู้แทนราษฎร และรัฐมนตรีอื่นอีกไม่เกินสามสิบห้าคนประกอบเป็นคณะรัฐมนตรีbr /br /มาตรา 8nbsp; ก่อนเข้ารับหน้าที่ รัฐมนตรี สมาชิกสภาผู้แทนราษฎรและสมาชิกวุฒิสภาต้องปฏิญาณตนในที่ประชุมแห่งสภาที่ตนเป็นสมาชิกด้วยถ้อยคำดังต่อไปนี้/p pข้าพเจ้า (ชื่อผู้ปฏิญาณ) ขอปฏิญาณว่า ข้าพเจ้าจะปฏิบัติหน้าที่ด้วยความซื่อสัตว์สุจริต รับใช้ประชาชน สำนึกในพระคุณของประชาชน เพื่อประโยชน์ส่วนรวมของปวงชนชาวไทย ทั้งจะรักษาไว้และปฏิบัติตามซึ่งรัฐธรรมนูญแห่งราชอาณาจักรไทยทุกประการbr /br /มาตรา 9nbsp; ให้จัดสรรภาษีเงินได้นิติบุคคลและภาษีเงินได้บุคคลธรรมดาร้อยละห้าสิบที่จัดเก็บได้ในท้องถิ่น ให้ใช้สอยเฉพาะในท้องถิ่นnbsp; หากไม่เพียงพอรัฐบาลพึงจัดหาให้เพิ่มเติมตามที่กฎหมายบัญญัติbr /br /มาตรา 10nbsp; ให้เลิกแผนกคดีอาญาของผู้ดำรงตำแหน่งทางการเมืองในศาลฎีกา (คนไทยทุกคนควรมีสิทธิเท่าเทียมกันในการต่อสู้ในศาลยุติธรรมทั้งสามชั้น)br /br /มาตรา 11nbsp; ศาลทหารมีอำนาจพิจารณาพิพากษาคดีอาญาทหารและคดีอื่นตามที่กฎหมายบัญญัติเฉพาะในระหว่างประกาศสงครามbr /br /มาตรา 12nbsp; องค์กรตามรัฐธรรมนูญซึ่งมีหน้าที่ตรวจสอบการใช้อำนาจรัฐคือ คณะกรรมการป้องกันและปราบปรามการทุจริตและประพฤติมิชอบ คณะกรรมการตรวจเงินแผ่นดิน คณะกรรมการการเลือกตั้ง คณะกรรมการสิทธิมนุษยชนแห่งชาติ และผู้ตรวจการแผ่นดินของรัฐสภา ต้องเปิดโอกาสให้ผู้ทรงคุณวุฒิที่มีอายุตั้งแต่ห้าสิบปีบริบูรณ์ในสาขาที่เกี่ยวข้อง สมัครเข้ารับการสรรหา และให้ผู้ที่จบการศึกษาในสาขาที่เกี่ยวข้องและมีอายุสามสิบปีบริบูรณ์ขึ้นไป เป็นผู้คัดเลือกจำนวนคณะละยี่สิบคน แล้วเสนอต่อประธานวุฒิสภาเพื่อลงมติคัดเลือกให้เหลือสิบคนในแต่ละคณะbr /br /ผมก็หวังให้ประเทศไทยมีประชาธิปไตยที่ดีตามนานาอารยประเทศ และเคารพในประชาชน โดยเฉพาะประชาชนคนเล็กคนน้อยที่เสียภาษีทางอ้อม เช่น ภาษีมูลค่าเพิ่มและอื่นๆ กันคนละนิดละหน่อย แต่รวมกันมหาศาลกว่าบริษัทห้างร้านหรือคหบดีที่ร่ำรวยnbsp;br /br /strongเรามาร่วมกันสนับสนุนรัฐบาลตามที่กล่าวว่า เราจะทำตามสัญญา ขอเวลาอีกไม่นาน แล้วแผ่นดินที่งดงามจะคืนกลับมา. . . ด้วยครับ/strong/p pnbsp;/p pnbsp;/p pnbsp;/p div class=field field-type-text field-field-feed-pr div class=field-items div class=field-item odd ติดตามความเคลื่อนไหวของ ประชาไท ทางอีเมล คลิกอ่าน http://goo.gl/8xIcV หรือเฟซบุ๊ค http://fb.me/Prachatai /div /div /div
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แรงงานอินเดียหยุดงานประท้วงทั่วประเทศ

แรงงานอินเดียหลายล้านคนพร้อมใจกันหยุดงานทั่วประเทศ เป็นเวลา 24 ชม.ในวันพุธ เพื่อประท้วงนโยบายเศรษฐกิจของนายกฯ นเรนทรา โมดี
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Fostering Authentic Generosity in Our Children

FEED - The Huffington Post - 58 min 48 sec ago

"What I notice, continuously, is that in spite of their frequent behavior to the contrary, children naturally want to be in rapport with peace! They truly WANT to learn how to embody their best selves. They are begging us to show them the way."

I have felt deeply moved and heartened lately to witness an essential and growing shift in my children's sibling relationship.

Of course, like all relationships, it's an ongoing work in progress. But I had a breakthrough recently in relation to a specific way I was engaging with a challenging dynamic of self-centered stinginess between my children, and the fruits of this breakthrough, "fostering generosity", have been utterly inspiring and faith-instilling for me about what's possible.

For the most part as a parent I trust the organic developmental process I get to witness in my children. There is a natural time and place and phase for all aspects of consciousness, and I celebrate my children being the young humans that they are. I don't need or expect them to have outgrown the natural egoic thrust of "me" and "mine" no matter how annoying it might be to navigate with them at times!

And yet some of the less pleasant aspects of young egos, the narcissistic and myopic tendencies that show up in most young ones -- this sense of the world revolving around them and their insistent desires -- is also what we consciously get to work with as parents.

Tendencies of selfishness, hoarding and greed, competitive comparison, malicious teasing, ill-wishing and bullying are all unfortunately common in childhood; and as we know, some humans fail to grow out of these tendencies! And so I see it as a great responsibility and honor we have to socialize and condition our children in ways that help them to understand their place in relation to one another and the greater whole, to take responsibility for the energetic impact of their presence in a space; illuminating the conscious choices they can make regarding both the beauty and harm they might bring to an environment.

One relational pattern between my children that had begun to truly drive me CRAZY, was the way in which my children were relating to one another's distinct callings and passions with an air of mutual competition, disdain and aversion. Arayla, (10.5) had grown resentful of her brother's exuberant passion for skateboarding, not wanting to have to give her own precious time towards supporting his development of skills and sport. Likewise, Ezra (6.5) was irritated and full of complaint when it came time to bringing Arayla to her horseback riding lessions, a practice and passion that brings her such deep peace and grounded joy.

I had tried objecting to this, reflecting how irritating it was to presence their unkind complaints, basically giving them negative feedback for the behavior. I had also tried ignoring it, refusing to fuel the dynamic with my own engagement. But much to my dismay, the pattern continued, and strengthened in intensity, leading to pseudo-tantrums when one was expected to accompany the other to their practice or lesson.

One day, I came home from a peaceful weekend of solitude away, and the toxicity of this dynamic was so painful for me to witness, that in a moment of absolute desperation I called a family meeting.

In the meeting, I let them know how much my heart was hurting to feel them not supporting each other in this way. And then we talked about what it means to REALLY love one another; what we sacrifice or give up of ourselves in this true love for another. I showed them how one of the greatest ways we can show our love for another being is in supporting their passions. And that this is a true expression of generosity; to give up our own space, time and attention in service of someone we love nurturing their own gifts, skills and passions.

To my surprise, my children listened with rapt attention, without a single defensive comment or objection. I think they could really feel how sad this dynamic made me feel, and this weighed heavy on their sensitive hearts. They were quiet, and nodded in sober agreement. It was as though they had been waiting for my invitation, and were relieved to be offered an alternative to the poisonous dynamic they had been engaging in somewhat addictively.

The next time we went to the skatepark so Ezra could skate, I gently invited Arayla to join me in witnessing the way Ezra was being served by his practice. "Look at how he's getting his energy out; how much he loves to challenge himself! Wow, look at the ease with which he finds his beautiful center." She was quiet by my side, and softened to invoke a different perspective regarding her brother's joy. I could feel the real stretch it was for her, after so many months of harboring resentment, to be authentically happy for his happiness, and I could also feel how much she appreciated the opportunity to stretch in this way. She leaned in by my side, palpably committed to evolving her stance. After many minutes, she looked up at me and said, tenderly: "Thanks for helping me to love Ezra better, Mom." Oh my goodness, such sweetness!

When we took Arayla to her horseback riding lesson not long after, I engaged Ezra in a similar way: "Wow -- look how much your sister loves to ride that horse! How beautiful she is! Tell me what you see in her?" Ezra watched carefully, and then said, astutely: "It's like how I feel when I'm skating, she just feels so happy, so strong and powerful and alive." My heart burst open, and I said "Yes! That's it! Knowing how much you love to skate, can you be happy for your sister that she gets to ride?" He nodded, his eyes shining, and he said: "I'm glad Arayla gets to have her passion."

Ahhh... you can imagine the relief for this mama heart!

I decided to try this new strategy out around another irritating pattern between them. This one, somewhat horrifically humorous, (maybe other parents can relate?) arose whenever one of them was thirsty, especially in the car, and we only had one water bottle from which to share. Invariably, when one of them would ask for a drink, the other sibling would suddenly be alerted to their own immense, seemingly life-threatening thirst, and while the other sibling drank, there would be loud demanding pleas from the other: "God, don't drink it all! Leave me some! You're gulping!" Or, my personal favorite: "You're only thinking about yourself!!"

This had happened so many times it was becoming ridiculous, and again, though I had objected many times to the pattern, insisting they stop squabbling, assuring them we have plenty of water, etc...the pattern continued, and I became more and more sensitive to its toxicity.

Finally, I realized that what really bothered me about this pattern was not just the irritating sound of their bickering, it was how apparently self-centered they each were in relation to their own thirst, not caring for one another's needs. And so in a calm moment, wherein unimaginable thirst was not such an immediate experience, I challenged them to a new perspective.

I said: "What would it feel like if you cared for each other's thirst being quenched, or hunger being sated, as much, if not more, than your own? What does that feel like in your hearts?" They were quiet, contemplating. Then Ezra said: "Loving." And Arayla said: "Generous." And I sighed deeply with gratitude and said: "Yes, thank you."

And then I added, with utter seriousness: "Here, at this time in our lives, we are some of the most blessed on the planet. We have enough food, and enough water to drink. There are many in our world who are not so lucky."

And then I asked them to carefully consider: "If we really did not have enough to eat or drink, would we want to eat and drink all that we could, only thinking about ourselves, without concern for what each other might need? Or would we want to share with our loved ones whatever we have...?"

I saw them really take this in, this scary thought of not having enough, and imagining their sibling whom they love dearly not having enough. Their eyes got big, and they looked at one another tenderly.

In the days that followed I noted a prominent shift around this issue. I overheard them offering each other a drink first in the car, before drinking themselves! I noticed them offering to get each other water at meal time, and considering one another when they went to fetch themselves a snack.

It continues to do such immense good for my heart, and there is notably more peace in our home. How faith-instilling, right? These small steps we can take and ways we can move beyond self-concern; learning to remember to simply and generously consider one another.

What I notice, continuously, is that in spite of their frequent behavior to the contrary, children naturally want to be in rapport with peace! They truly WANT to learn how to embody their best selves. They are begging us to show them the way. I think we do children a great disservice when we assume they are too immature or egocentric to not only understand but actually embody empathetic, compassionate, insightful and generously wise perspectives.

Why not instead assume they are entirely capable of embodying qualities that help them to feel the largeness of their own hearts, and the immediacy of their power to bless and inspire those around them with the choices they make?

I love, respect and in no way take lightly this humbling capacity we have to condition our children. For better and sometimes for worse, the children of the world are watching our every move and learning from our living example.

Hopefully we condition them in ways without shaming, blaming, guilting, or hobbling their strong-willed spirits, while serving their potential as humans to know deep love and respect for both themselves and each other; humans who passionately contribute to the world, who communicate clearly and skillfully, and who harbor well-honed gifts of self-reflection and self-awareness.

For myself, this breakthrough of bringing my genuine sadness to my children about hurtful tendencies I notice between them, and powerfully inviting them to embody, enact and extend authentic generosity to one another and the world around them, is one I will continue to learn from!

Such an endlessly humbling path true parenting is; such an immense responsibility, holy task and sacred honor.

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London housing crisis: £480 a month for a bed, in a shed, in the lounge

pThe rising cost of renting in the capital has led to some landlords being creative with their properties/ppWhen a flatshare advert calls for a “laid back, happy-go-lucky type that’s sociable [and] open minded”, it’s not necessarily a warning sign. /ppBut Joe Peduzzi had no idea how far his tolerance would be stretched. The 22-year-old found that the double room in east London he had expected to view was in fact a mattress in a shed in the corner of a communal living room./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/sep/02/london-housing-crisis-480-a-month-for-a-bed-in-a-shed-in-the-lounge"Continue reading.../a
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London housing crisis: £480 a month for a bed, in a shed, in the lounge

FEED - The Guardian - 59 min 10 sec ago
pThe rising cost of renting in the capital has led to some landlords being creative with their properties/ppWhen a flatshare advert calls for a “laid back, happy-go-lucky type that’s sociable [and] open minded”, it’s not necessarily a warning sign. /ppBut Joe Peduzzi had no idea how far his tolerance would be stretched. The 22-year-old found that the double room in east London he had expected to view was in fact a mattress in a shed in the corner of a communal living room./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/sep/02/london-housing-crisis-480-a-month-for-a-bed-in-a-shed-in-the-lounge"Continue reading.../abr clear='all'/br/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/1/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/1/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/2/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/2/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/3/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/rc/3/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/a2.htm"img src="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/a2.img" border="0"//abr/a href="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/ach.htm"img src="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/ach.img" border="0"//aimg width="1" height="1" src="http://pi.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/a2t.img" border="0"/img width="1" height="1" src="http://pi2.feedsportal.com/r/238385146857/u/60/f/663828/c/34708/s/4983128e/sc/26/a2t2.img" border="0"/img width='1' height='1' src='http://feeds.theguardian.com/c/34708/f/663828/s/4983128e/sc/26/mf.gif' border='0'/
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Is Donald Trump right about taxing the rich?

FEED - CNN - Top Stories - 1 hour 28 sec ago
In the topsy-turvy world of tax politics, here's the latest twist: Donald Trump is making some good points about taxes.br clear='all'/br/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/1/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/1/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/2/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/2/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/3/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/rc/3/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/a2.htm"img src="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/a2.img" border="0"//abr/a href="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/ach.htm"img src="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/ach.img" border="0"//aimg width="1" height="1" src="http://pi.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/a2t.img" border="0"/img width="1" height="1" src="http://pi2.feedsportal.com/r/238385159219/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/4983b157/sc/7/a2t2.img" border="0"/img width='1' height='1' src='http://rss.cnn.com/c/35492/f/676961/s/4983b157/sc/7/mf.gif' border='0'/
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Alexander: War vs. cops hurts us all

FEED - CNN - Top Stories - 1 hour 28 sec ago
On August 28, Harris County sheriff's deputy Darren Goforth was assassinated -- I can think of no other word for it -- while pumping gas into his patrol car at a suburban Houston Chevron station.br clear='all'/br/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/1/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/1/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/2/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/2/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/3/rc.htm" rel="nofollow"img src="http://rc.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/rc/3/rc.img" border="0"//abr/br/a href="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/a2.htm"img src="http://da.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/a2.img" border="0"//abr/a href="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/ach.htm"img src="http://adchoice.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/ach.img" border="0"//aimg width="1" height="1" src="http://pi.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/a2t.img" border="0"/img width="1" height="1" src="http://pi2.feedsportal.com/r/238385151226/u/60/f/676961/c/35492/s/49824416/sc/7/a2t2.img" border="0"/img width='1' height='1' src='http://rss.cnn.com/c/35492/f/676961/s/49824416/sc/7/mf.gif' border='0'/
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Is Idris Elba 'too street' to be James Bond?

FEED - CNN - Top Stories - 1 hour 28 sec ago
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Cevallos: What shooting video may leave out

FEED - CNN - Top Stories - 1 hour 28 sec ago
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